Expanding Your Career Circle

For a lot of us, the word “networking” brings up images of stuffy rooms, forced smiles and awkward small talk.

But that’s not the only way to do it.

In fact, it’s not even the best way, especially if you’re coming back into the world of work after time away, managing anxiety or just not feeling up for performance.

This chapter is about helping you connect with the right people, in a way that works for your energy, your life and your goals.

One step at a time.

1. Start With What You Already Have

Before you reach out to strangers online, take a second look at who’s already in your world:

• Former colleagues or classmates

• People you’ve volunteered with or helped out in the past

• Friends of friends who are doing something interesting

• Community workers, tutors or even parents at the school gate

  
  

You don’t need to send a fancy message.

Try:

“Hey, I’m thinking of moving into [X field] — just wondering if you know anyone I could speak to or shadow?”

Most people want to help.

They just don’t know you’re looking.

2. Use Social Media (In a Way That Feels Safe)

You don’t have to go viral or post daily, just use your profile to let people know what you’re interested in.

You can:

• Follow people in fields you admire

• Comment or reply to posts (even a simple “This helped, thank you” builds visibility)

• Share what you’re learning or working on, even casually

  
  

If you’re not ready to post, that’s okay.

Lurking is learning too.

You’ll pick up language, ideas and opportunities just by staying tuned in.

3. Attend Events (Without the Pressure)

Professional events can be scary, especially if you’re not sure what to say.

Here’s how to ease in:

• Start with free, local or online events (check Eventbrite, libraries, or community centres)

• Go with a friend or let someone know you’re nervous

• Ask open questions like, “What brought you here?” or “What do you do day to day?” — let them talk

• Give yourself permission to leave early if it gets too much

  
  

Every conversation doesn’t have to lead to a job.

Sometimes it just leads to a moment of feeling seen.

4. Seek Out Mentors (Formally or Informally)

You don’t need someone with a fancy title.

A mentor is just someone a few steps ahead, who’s willing to share what they’ve learned.

That could be:

• Someone in your community doing the work you want to do

• A past tutor or coach

• Someone you find through a programme, charity, or even LinkedIn

Try saying:

“I really admire what you’re doing,

would you be open to a short call or coffee so I can learn more about your journey?”

You’re not asking for a job.

You’re showing curiosity.

That alone says something powerful about you.

It’s Okay to Start Quietly

You don’t have to become a networking queen overnight.

You just need to open one small door, reply to one post, message one person, show up to one thing.

Real growth happens in small, steady ways.

Let people see what you’re about, bit by bit.

You never know who’s watching quietly, ready to open a door for you.

Building Your Professional Network